Where am I? A mum the baby photographs forgot

When I started this blog I made a really sad and shocking discovery – I’m missing from most of the baby pictures. Nine months, thousands of beautiful images but only a handful of me. How did that happen?

I couldn’t find any photos of me
When looking for this blog.
Of course there’s plenty of my mini me
With her dad and the dog.

I’m the unofficial photographer of the family,
So I’m never in the picture.
Unless it’s an awkward selfie,
There’s no photos of me and her.

Now most of that is my fault,
I know that is true.
But when she is an adult,
I want her to look back and see that I was there too.

I don’t know why I’m camera shy,
But I don’t want to be.
I think I just need to try
To be more camera friendly.

I don’t want to worry
That my hair is a mess.
That I’m really spotty
Or there’s dirt on my dress.

I know I look better from the back,
But I don’t want to care.
I just want to look back
And have evidence that I was there.

So even if I’m moaning
That my face is make-up free,
Please ignore my groaning
And take the damn photo of me.

Just know that if I pose for it
The photo won’t be pretty.
Because it makes me look like a right tit
When I know the camera is on me!

Anyone else always taking the photos and never actually in them? Please don’t let me be the only one. Let me know in the comments below. 

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40 thoughts on “Where am I? A mum the baby photographs forgot

  1. My friend once asked why I’m not in many photos. “Remember,” she said, ” you will never be this young again.” She’s right. With teenagers now I looked bloody fab when they were babies! #bloggerclubuk

  2. I am jealous of everyone who blogs about their children as it is a wonderful keepsake, there wasn’t blogging when my children were growing up, all I have are fading photos in an album and my memories #honeybeelinky@_karendennis

    • I know we are so lucky to have an easy way of documenting memories. But those fading photo albums are a treasure. I’m a sucker for a good photo album. I wish I had more time to devote to keepsakes like that. Nothing beats a memory you can hold in your hands.

  3. You are definitely not alone on this one! I’m rarely in the pictures and what I really REALLY want is my dear husband to capture some nice natural moments as even he gives a sympathetic ‘awww’ when he looks at pictures of me where I’ve posed! Cx

  4. You’re not alone! I’ve realised the exact same thing. There are some of me with my eldest, a few with my second, and hardly any with my third. There’s also hardly any of all five of us together! #HoneybeeLinky

  5. I am exactly the same! I’m always taking photos but as the onlooker – not part of the photo! I’ll vow to be in more from now on! #HoneyBeeLinky

  6. It is so easy to not be in the photos. I hate pictures of me but realise that one day that is all that will be left and so try my hardest to have some with us in so the kids can see we were there with them. #HoneybeeLinky

  7. Ahhh, I can relate to this so much. Have recently asked my OH to take more pictures of me with the children and am going to take more selfies with them too. It’s so important! They will be grateful of it in the future 🙂 thank you for adding a second post on the #HoneybeeLinky! Xx

  8. #thesatsesh welcome to my world – luckily I’m a selfie queen 🙂 no awk here, just Beyonce the camera up and go for it, however id love it if we had more of all of us? They are really rare – but i also hate prof photo shots…hmmmm, asking strangers? lol

  9. Yup – exactly the same for me too. I’m only in a handful of our baby photos. It is sad. I think it’s because I love taking photos, but it feels weird for me to demand someone else take a photo of me #sharingthebloglove

  10. I feel so passionately about this. Admittedly it’s down to me – I’m not always confident in how I look, and will shy away from the camera, but it made me sad looking back on my first pregnancy and realising I had no photos of it, and very few of the early baby days too. I’ve got better at handing the camera to my husband, and he’s got better at just picking it up, but I still need to do it more. Thanks for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

  11. Yes, I looked so good then and I didn’t appreciate it at the time! Too stressed out, I guess. My kids love my one or two awkward selfies – I have to make a mental note to use my camera more. Thanks for sharing!

  12. In the early days I wasn’t in many photos and that was mainly because I am the one that thinks about taking photos and my husband would never think to. I’ve got better at making sure I give him the camera to capture me too. Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

  13. Most of the photos I take are of N on his own. The OH never comes on holiday or goes for days out, he’s always working. So he’s in even fewer photos. I do try and get selfies with N but he’s not keen on them at the moment. Even out with friends, they never take photos so I don’t even have other people taking them #sharingthebloglove.

  14. I love the deeper message in this. Raising children in this world is hard and to pass on a inner confidence takes work. We are real and should celebrate real photography of real moments. #sharingthebloglove

  15. My mummy was like this until recently when she wanted to appear more in family photos and be more confident especially in front of me. Great poem x popping over from #Sharingtheblogpost showcase x

  16. I love this! I am exactly the same. My social media, the house, photo albums etc are covered in family photos and I’m not in many of them! I need to get over my dislike of being photographed because I know I’ll regret it when they’re older #TheMMLinky

  17. A lovely poem that many mum’s will relate to. I have very few photos of my mum and I don’t want it to be the same for my kids. #TheMMLinky

  18. I’m always behind the camera… mainly because my husband is AWFUL at taking photos. I’m also mega self critical so it’s likely that I edit them after! If only I had photoshop hey? thanks for linking up to #fortheloveofBLOG

  19. I too am the photographer. I have taken lovely photos of my son and hubby together (not to blow my own trumpet) yet neither of us think to switch around. My phone is rubbish at selfies (note how I don’t blame the user) and by the time I get the hang of it all I end up with is me looking in the wrong place and the back of H’s head as he has got bored and wandered off. I give up! #TwinklyTuesday

  20. The only photos I have of me and my children are those that I have taken, so I completely get this! Why don’t husband’s think to take a photo?! Thanks for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday, hope to see you again next week.

  21. Not alone. I have barely any photos with my youngest who is 5 months and your blog has just made me realized. To be honest, most of my day is spent juggling things around working from home and being a mum of 2 young ones so taking photos is hugely neglected. 😦

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