I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the person I used to be and how much I’ve changed. Most of those changes are for the better. I just wish someone had told me back then some of the things I know now. Then maybe it wouldn’t have taken me so long to realise what really matters.
NOTE: I’m probably going to regret hitting publish on this before my morning caffeine.
To the person I was,
Hello past me, it’s future you.
I’m here to tell you a thing or two.
Right now you say that you want a career.
And thoughts of a family are far from here.
But one day that will change – it’s true.
You’ll have a daughter – you’ll plan it too.
So make the most of life now and do what makes you happy.
Make the most of your freedom before you have your baby.
Go out. See the world. Do lots of fun things.
Be adventurous. Be daring. Spread your wings.
Have that extra drink, stay out partying ’til late.
It’s ok if you need to stay in bed all day to recuperate.
Having a hangover day won’t always be an option.
So make the most of it right now whilst you still can.
Never take sleep for granted or feel bad for having a nap.
Sometimes it’s OK to stay in bed, watch Netflix and eat crap.
White jeans. White tops. White dresses. Wear them all.
Soon they won’t be safe from baby sick, sticky fingers and drool.
Embrace the silence
Soak up all the quiet whilst you can.
When you have a baby quiet-time doesn’t always go to plan.
Enjoy your freedom and going to the toilet alone.
And all that time spent playing on your phone.
All these things that you take for granted now.
Will all become special treats, somehow.
All that decorating you’ve been meaning to do?
The kitchen, the painting and the gardening too.
When the baby is here there won’t be time to decorate.
So get a move on already before it’s too late.
Try to love your body
Be comfortable in your skin.
Stop stressing about whether you’re too fat or too thin.
Your body is amazing and it will perform miracles soon.
So stop looking at it with such doom and gloom.
Stop trying to stay friends with people who don’t care.
One day you won’t even realise that they’re no longer there.
You only need a handful of true friends.
The ones that will stick by you ’til the very end.
When your life becomes busy and your time is precious.
There won’t be time for people who couldn’t care less.
Stop judging the mums you see when you’re out.
You have no idea what this parenting thing is all about.
You look at the kid and think: “Woah what a brat.”
“When I’m a parent I won’t do that.”
Well, I’m sorry to tell you but that is a lie.
And when you have your little girl you’ll understand why.
So, instead of looking over with a judgemental stare,
Try to be sympathetic because one day you’ll be there.
Please don’t let any of this put you off of what is to come.
Whilst parenting is a sacrifice, it’ll be the best thing that you’ve done.
You’ll learn to love like you have never loved before.
And, you’ll have a friend forever more.
Lots of love from future you.
If you could go back and talk to pre-mum you what would you tell her?