This poem is for any mum who feels like she is the only one who has no idea what she’s doing. I promise you that you are not alone.
Comparing myself to other mums was something I really struggled with in the beginning.
I’d get to baby groups and everyone else would look like they knew exactly what they were doing.
Then there was me. The awkward one struggling to get the baby to stop crying, eat or sleep whilst making nervous smiles towards other mums who looked like they’d walked straight off a fashion week catwalk.
As it turns out, I wasn’t the only one struggling. Once I started talking to people I realised that we all had similar issues. We were all just too scared to show it through fear of being judged.
So this is for all the other mums who, like I did, think they’re the only one struggling to figure this parenting thing out.
To all the mums having a bad day…
You turn up at the baby group looking and feeling a mess.
Hair unbrushed, no makeup on and unidentified substances on your dress.
Baby is kicking off, wailing in her pram for all to see.
Why does no one else look like they’re struggling? Why is it only me?
But looks can be deceiving and your perceptions might not be true.
Those who seem to have it together are probably struggling as much as you.
Sure they might look great right now but there’s a lot a smile can hide.
You don’t always get to see what those mums feel deep inside.
So stop being so hard on yourself, wondering what you’re doing wrong.
If you’ve been parenting with love – you’ve been doing it right all along.
Sometimes we have bad days with struggles that keep us up at night.
We’re all just desperately trying to do this mothering thing right.
When you have a tough day it’s ok to cry and have a moan.
This rhyming mum is here to tell you that you are not alone.
So never be intimidated by the other mums you find.
Stop comparing yourself to others – you are one of a kind.
You are doing a fantastic job with everything you do.
If you love your baby then they will love you.
At the end of the day, when all is said and done,
Your kids want a happy mum – not a perfect one.
Lots of love from The Rhyming Mum.
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This post was originally written for The Mum E-mag.