People often ask me how I find the time to read and the truth is for a long time I didn’t. But if you want, or in my case need, to do something badly enough you can make the time.
Find the time
We often say “I don’t have time today.”
“I’ll do it tomorrow. Or another day.”
But time is only ours right now,
Once it’s gone it’s lost somehow.
So find the time to take care of yourself,
Time to look after your mental health.
Find the time to go somewhere special,
Or be with those you love most of all.
Find the time to read a story,
Or binge watch something on tv.
Find the time to smell the flowers,
Or do nothing for a few hours.
Find the time to learn a new skill,
If you don’t do it now you never will.
Whatever self care looks like to you,
Find the time and see it through.
Before I had children I would often read a couple of books a week.
But, when Roo came along I convinced myself I didn’t have the time and I barely touched a book for the first year of her life.
It turns out I did have time I was just using it badly.
I was finding my way as a new mum and somehow lost many of the things that I loved doing for me.
I quickly realised though that the little bit of self care reading provides me was necessary to allow me to be the best mum I can be.
So, I started finding the time to read and do other things I love too.
I’d wake up an hour before Roo (this didn’t always work – especially when she went through a stage of 5am starts).
I used some nap times for me time rather than dedicating them all to cleaning the house.
And, once Roo was in bed I stopped spending all night scrolling Instagram and started using the time for some self care.
It wasn’t always much but it was a good start to finding me time again.
Oddly when I went back to work I found even more time.
I’d get to work early to beat the traffic and have time to eat breakfast in peace and read a chapter or two. Plus I had lunch breaks to enjoy as well.
Now I’m back to newborn life it’s been an adjustment again but I’ve been using the night feeds to get in a few pages here and there.
I think the key to my success at the moment is I’ve been lucky in that the books I’ve picked are easy to dip in and out of.
Short chapters are currently my best friend and I’m using a breakfast bar wrapper as a bookmark because Roo stole mine and I can’t find it anywhere but I’m reading and that’s the main thing.
I’ve also got better at taking a break.
Once upon a time if I had any childfree time I’d spend it cleaning or doing life admin but that’s not really a break is it?
Now I allow myself some time off just for me and whatever I fancy doing that day.
Whether I decide to use that time for a long soak in the bath, catching up with friends or reading a book, that little bit of self care is so important.
How do you find the time to read or practice a bit of self care? Let me know in the comments below.